Reality Round Up RHOBH

I am adding a segment to the podcast that is going to offer up some Reality TV hububaloo. I am starting off with Season 9 of Real Housewives of Beverly Hills to put puppy gate to rest once and for all! It really has gone too far although I am happy for Lisa to stand her ground and move onto larger and better things. Enjoy!

Celebrity Crushes, Obsessions and Justifiable Homicide!

Celebrities signing autographs
By Suzanne Riley

My first celebrity crush was Larry Hagman as Major Nelson on I Dream of Jeannie! I went on to Donny Osmond, David Cassidy, Scott Baio, Shaun Cassidy, Andy Gibb, Robby Benson and probably several others. What wasn’t to love about the 1970’s?

Some people take their crushes to an obsession and display extremely disturbing behaviors. Next thing they fall into some form of psychosis they have trouble snapping out of and stalk celebrities. Then you have a whole other type of person that goes to extremes by enlisting in multiple surgeries because they want to look like a particular celebrity.

On a lighter note, celebrities have been known to marry fans. Some spouses are not in the entertainment industry at all so we seldom hear or see them in the news bits. It would take a great deal of confidence to be able to accept the fandom and attention their spouses receive.

Lana Turner was one of Hollywood’s most sought after actresses from the 1930’s for 50 years. 8 marriages and 1 mobster jealous boyfriend later a scandal occurred when someone wound up dead.

All on this weeks episode, we spill it all. Don’t miss out!!

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Friends Matter, Make Them and Don’t Forsake Them

friends holding hands dancing in a circle
by Suzanne

Making friendships as an adult (over the age of 40 especially) can be a bit tricky.  This week’s episode is about making friends and overcoming our vulnerabilities in the process.  Prioritizing friendships and being a good friend is the exchange for having a good friend.  It can feel similar and just as complicated when finding a soulmate!  

While raising children, my friends were frequently chosen by them connecting me with mom’s of their friends, hence making it very easy for me. I still have some of those friends. One of them in particular is one of my nearest and dearest friends although our daughter’s drifted apart by 9th grade. Meeting people at work is great however with the growing population of people working from home it’s best to have a plan B. Do things you enjoy so you are surrounded by people that share that common interest or activity.

Try to be self aware so you are not coming on too strong or seeming so desperate. This is what I mean by it being similar to finding a soulmate. Once we are older and wiser, we tend to be more selective of the company we keep. It can be for the reason that we have been hurt in the past while engaged in toxic friendships or simply that we need to let our inner extrovert out once in a while.

Most of us over 40, 50, 60, 70, 80 and beyond don’t feel like we have to collect friends or be the most popular person in town. Some people do, I am generalizing. Whatever your position is at this time in your life I hope you are flourishing with genuine, meaningful friendships. I have a few ideas if you are in the process of seeking out your people.

Building Your Circle of Friends

  • Make a list of places, groups, clubs, volunteer opportunities, activities you enjoy. I like MeetUp
  • Show Up
  • Be Yourself…not who you think they want you to be
  • Take genuine interest in others and take close note if it is being reciprocated (not everyone wants to be your friend-it’s okay)
  • Keep in touch… make dates, phone calls, text, group text, GroupMe, MarcoPolo, etc
  • Contact Me

Friendships are often times our greatest asset. Value them as such because studies show people with strong friendships live longer. How in the world “they” know that is beyond me? Give it a whirl! Cheers!!

10 Tips on How to Avoid Becoming a Victim of a Romance Scam

by Suzanne

In the age of social media and internet matchmaking sites, we all know or should know that there are probably more misrepresented profiles than we realize. Women and men are being cat-fished all day every day. What happens when you fall victim to a con-person? You could lose your life savings or worse your life. I was recently made aware of the FBI complaint department that has a reporting system to intake information on such people that are committing crimes against people under this Romance Crime umbrella.

People that are carrying out such scams are highly skilled and have plenty of practice. They are channeled in to ideal targets. They have lists they share around in their heinous community of thugs naming people that have a history of being conned. Don’t make that list and beware by following a few safety tips.

Safety Tips

  1. Confirm the person’s photo/profile to make sure they are not being used in multiple platforms with aliases etc. Online searches is the best form of confirmation.
  2. Take your time with someone and ask as many questions as you feel you need or want to ask. Potential suitors will respect your inquiries and answer them without being defensive or evasive.
  3. If someone seems too perfect, they usually are anything but perfect. If they plead or demand to be exclusive before getting to know you and vice versa this is probably a warning sign that this person does not have good intentions.
  4. Isolation is usually their 2nd call of action after they have swooned you. Anyone that is uncomfortable with you having friends and relationships with your family members is dangerous. They may ask for financial information or inappropriate photos to later use to extort you.
  5. If the person commits to an in-person meeting and cancels more than once with excuses that seem odd this person is likely not legit.
  6. NEVER send money or agree to accept packages on their behalf.
  7. NEVER invite this person to your home until you have 100% assurance the person is who they say they are and shows no signs of a threat to you. I would insist on meeting all of his closest friends and relatives. I consider someone that has no living relatives or friends a giant no-no.
  8. Your children should NEVER be included in dating app photos. NO EXCEPTION!! Even if they are your adult children.
  9. Never be so desperate that you find yourself explaining away the secrecy, dishonesty or inconsistencies in someone’s behavior.
  10. Make a pact with a trusted friend that if they don’t approve of Mr. or Mrs. Awesome then you will let that person go. Sometimes we deny, deny, deny that we are too blind to see the obvious.

If you or someone you know has a complaint to file the web address is:
https://www.ic3.gov/default.aspx