In the age of social media and internet matchmaking sites, we all know or should know that there are probably more misrepresented profiles than we realize. Women and men are being cat-fished all day every day. What happens when you fall victim to a con-person? You could lose your life savings or worse your life. I was recently made aware of the FBI complaint department that has a reporting system to intake information on such people that are committing crimes against people under this Romance Crime umbrella.
People that are carrying out such scams are highly skilled and have plenty of practice. They are channeled in to ideal targets. They have lists they share around in their heinous community of thugs naming people that have a history of being conned. Don’t make that list and beware by following a few safety tips.
- Confirm the person’s photo/profile to make sure they are not being used in multiple platforms with aliases etc. Online searches is the best form of confirmation.
- Take your time with someone and ask as many questions as you feel you need or want to ask. Potential suitors will respect your inquiries and answer them without being defensive or evasive.
- If someone seems too perfect, they usually are anything but perfect. If they plead or demand to be exclusive before getting to know you and vice versa this is probably a warning sign that this person does not have good intentions.
- Isolation is usually their 2nd call of action after they have swooned you. Anyone that is uncomfortable with you having friends and relationships with your family members is dangerous. They may ask for financial information or inappropriate photos to later use to extort you.
- If the person commits to an in-person meeting and cancels more than once with excuses that seem odd this person is likely not legit.
- NEVER send money or agree to accept packages on their behalf.
- NEVER invite this person to your home until you have 100% assurance the person is who they say they are and shows no signs of a threat to you. I would insist on meeting all of his closest friends and relatives. I consider someone that has no living relatives or friends a giant no-no.
- Your children should NEVER be included in dating app photos. NO EXCEPTION!! Even if they are your adult children.
- Never be so desperate that you find yourself explaining away the secrecy, dishonesty or inconsistencies in someone’s behavior.
- Make a pact with a trusted friend that if they don’t approve of Mr. or Mrs. Awesome then you will let that person go. Sometimes we deny, deny, deny that we are too blind to see the obvious.
If you or someone you know has a complaint to file the web address is: